Funeral Etiquette Guide

Funeral Etiquette Important When Planning

Funeral etiquette is a very important thing to keep in mind while planning and arranging a service. For the vast majority of people the death of a friend or loved one is an incredibly emotional and trying time, making it exceptionally important that funeral etiquette be observed to avoid offending or upsetting anyone.

Funeral etiquette applies to every aspect of the ceremony from the initial planning of the memorial and viewing to the final moments of the burial at the cemetery. Funeral etiquette can apply to behavior, observance of tradition and the attention paid to the arrangement of decorations. This article focuses on expanding how to apply funeral etiquette to the selection of floral decorations.

Religious Significance of Funeral Etiquette

Perhaps the largest contributing factor to the need for a good observance of traditional funeral etiquette is the faith of the deceased and their family. Most religions have their own unique procedures that should be followed as closely as possible when planning the ceremonies. This allows you to pay your respects in a most appropriate manner. The following list outlines several religious guidelines:

· Roman Catholic: Catholic tradition is fairly liberal when it comes to funeral etiquette for decorations. Flowers are considered very appropriate means of paying your respects and are extremely common. Very nearly any type of arrangement you can think of is appropriate for a Catholic ceremony, so long as the decorations are kept respectable and somber.

· Mormon: Flowers are extremely appropriate to send and to use when decorating a service. You will break no funeral etiquette rules by sending flowers to a Mormon ceremony. One thing to avoid, however, is flower crosses and other cross-based decorations. These are inappropriate and not good funeral etiquette.

· Protestant and other Christian Denominations: Much like Catholic services, a Christian ceremony adheres to funeral etiquette rules stating that floral gifts and decorations are appropriate and respectable. You can’t go wrong electing to send flowers in any variety of respectable arrangement to the service.

· Buddhist: Although the ceremonies surrounding a Buddhist funeral are different from Western traditions, it is still acceptable and appropriate to send flowers in memory of the deceased. One thing to keep in mind, however, is that sending red flowers is considered poor funeral etiquette. White flowers are the traditional Buddhist flower of mourning.

Keeping in mind the above traditions will help you to effectively plan a religious service without breaking any important funeral etiquette rules.

Funeral Etiquette as it Applies to Flower Arrangements

When sending flowers as a sympathy or memorial gift it is important to realize that you’re doing a great thing for the family of the deceased. Your thoughtful gift will act as a spiritual and moral crutch in many cases, and can greatly assist with the healing process. It is, however, definitely important to observe proper funeral etiquette when sending arrangements.

The first thing to keep in mind is the color of your arrangement. Suitable colors differ from region to region, but white is generally appropriate in every case. Red and pink, both very emotional colors, make very good alternative selections, or can be mixed together with white to enhance the overall appearance of the arrangement itself.

It’s best to avoid tropical or exotic flowers or ones with bright and cheerful colors unless you know first-hand that this will not violate funeral etiquette. Possible exceptions exist if specific flowers had an important personal meaning to the deceased, in which case they would become exceptionally appropriate (and rather touching, as well).

If you are making arrangements to order casket sprays, funeral home decorations or flowers for the cemetery the same funeral etiquette applies. Keep colors respectable and appropriate and avoid overly-elaborate displays unless they are significant to the deceased and those gathered for the ceremony.

In many cases flower crosses and hearts are welcome decorations, as are special memorial arrangements put together with creativity in mind. If you require any design advice, your local florist should be well equipped to provide some handy suggestions based on past experience with funerals and funeral etiquette in general.

Ordering Flowers

You are presented with two convenient means of ordering funeral flowers. The first involves visiting your local florist’s shop and discussing your requirements with the staff. They will adhere to their own knowledge of appropriate funeral etiquette (guided by any information you can offer about religion or personal wishes of the deceased) to come up with something great.

You may also take advantage of ordering online through the website. This can be convenient if you are short on time and can’t make it to the store personally. The website allows for safe and secure ordering and lets to arrange for same-day guaranteed local delivery to your home, the home of the bereaved family or to the location of the funeral service itself.

Copyright (c) 2008 Brant Florist

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One Response to Funeral Etiquette Guide

  • Debbie says:

    We have a Korean funeral to go to tonight and we want to be respectful as far as what to wear & what to expect. Not sure of their religion but the service is in a Korean church. Do they have viewings in the church? HELP!!

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